Wednesday, August 10, 2011

This could really be a good life

A good, good life. I've found some insight/inspiration from the song The Good Life by One Republic. Take a listen if you have a minute. It's a balanced song about how you have a good life and could have good life. I feel I am walking that balance. Have and could have. Have and have not.

I have a good life. And I have had RA for 20 years.

"When you are happy like a fool, let it take you over, when everything is out, you gotta let it in." (The Good Life)

I think I've had a hard time taking it in, my good life. I think I see all that I have lost and not all that I have gained. I emailed RA Guy about completing a submission for his "Real Profiles of RA" and I got stuck on his question "
How has living with RA helped to improve your life?"

Well my first reaction is that it hasn't. RA has had the exact opposite impact on my life. I have a lot of regret about the path that I am on. I think through this blog, I am discovering that I am still looking back to 20 years ago wondering how different my life would have been without RA. And I can only see all that it has cost me. I had a hell of a time finding my silver lining. I admire many of my fellow bloggers for coming to terms with their RA and having a positive attitude about it, and then sharing with others. That takes energy that I don't have yet.

I have a positive outlook on most of my life, but this seems to be some dark corner in my life that I am still so angry about. I have a laundry list of complaints, and I can't seem to get past, around over or under them.

So here lies my negativity, in my blog. This is a tidy place to keep it. It doesn't interfere with my daily life, and I have an outlet. And I feel better. So thank you for listening. As I've said before, this blog is a one-way conversation for the most part, and it is immeasurably beneficial to me.


Gisela said...

I feel the same way you do. I can find absolutely nothing positive about having RA, although I am doing well on MTX monotherapy. And thanks for sharing.

Anonymous said...

Not everyone has to be a pollyanna about it. It just doesn't work out that way for everyone. Especially you. I have a little silver lining, but it mainly benefits others in my life. It has yet to benefit me in any significant way other than caring for and understanding how others feel.